TABLE OF CONTENTS

Forward by Alexandra Roddy................................................. vii
Voice of Rosalyn Rivkin........................................................... ix
Voice of Sally Park Rubin........................................................ xii
Introduction............................................................................. xv

CAUGHT IN THE IMPOSSIBLE

Ch. 1: Overfunctioning............................................................... 1
—“I’ll Just Do It Myself ”
Ch. 2: The Self-Esteem Factor................................................. 13
—The Pressure To Be Perfect
Ch. 3: Impossible People......................................................... 27
—Those “It’s All About Me” People!
Ch. 4: We Keep Buyin’ What They’re Sellin’........................... 45
—Quick Fixes/Faux Formulas
Ch. 5: The Invisible Driver....................................................... 53
—How the Overfunctioning Trance Got Behind the Wheel
Ch. 6: Taking the Wheel.......................................................... 63
—Good/Bad Intuition and Relationships

 BREAKING FREE OF THE TREACHEROUS TRIANGLE

Ch. 7: Welcoming Anxiety........................................................ 81
—Let Your Discomfort Be Your Guide
Ch. 8: Handling Criticism.......................................................... 97
—Strengthen Your Personal Empowerment
Ch. 9: Drawing Your Own Lines............................................ 107
—Find Your Right to Say NO
Ch. 10: Demystifying Anger.................................................... 123
—Discover Anger’s Constructive Uses
Ch. 11: More Operating Rules for Anger................................ 137
—Maintain Your Self-Esteem
Ch. 12: Raising Yellow and Red Flags.................................... 149
—Don’t Doubt Your Sense of Doubt
Ch. 13: Courage for Mapping a Counterpath.......................... 161
—Assess the Risk To Make Cherished Choices 

LIVING IN THE POSSIBLE

Ch. 14: Choosing Good People and Good Jobs..................... 175
—Walk Your Talk
Ch. 15: Making Cherished Choices........................................ 191
—Reclaim Time; Create Well-Being
Ch. 16: Becoming Your Own Hero........................................ 211
—Redefine Success, Freedom, and Creativity
Ch. 17: Freedom.................................................................... 223
—Cast Off Overfunctioning; Live the Possible Life 

AFTERWORD.................................................................... 235
—Going Down the Right Road Well